(This post was originally published on Sex and the Sisters.)
My friend spread the tarot cards out on a red tablecloth. Nervous, I tapped my fingers against my chin. A prediction of my life for the next year was being laid out before me. My own issues–am I going to hell for doing this that is not what my Baptist forefathers believed in? what if I am going to learn something I don’t want to know? should I have gotten this manicure because this nail color is awful?–race through my mind.
She clears her throat and turns over the cards. I have no idea what I am looking at. The cards are unfamiliar images, but I know that she is smiling. I take that as a good sign.
When it got to my relationship portion, my friend didn’t smile. She got serious. “You need to get rid of all the men in your life.”Good things are coming, she said. Like the majority of people who go in for readings, I didn’t care about good things. I wanted to know if a good man was coming.
All of them? All of them. I was perplexed. I like two of them. The others had been in my life for awhile. I was certain that one was the one, the be all, the one I chose forever.
“The one you think you want,” she said, shaking her head. “He is not the one. They are all signs of land.”
I dismissed her concerns, and I continued seeing my male friends until they faded out of the picture, got hitched to other people, fell back in love with other women, and finally told me that there was nothing there.
They all said that they loved me, but the timing wasn’t right. The timing for their apologies and goodbyes were spectacularly planned to coincide with the new beginnings I had to have in my life.
Over time, I started reading and hearing the phrase “signs of land” frequently. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. For me, when I was ready, the phrase appeared again and again. From my friend (once more), in the Florence Schovel Shinn book I read in Paris, in my daily affirmations, from the mouth of other mentors.
I get it finally. A sign of land is simply put:
- valuable indicators that validate you are on the right path. The practice of noticing signs of land activates and confirms your own internal guidance system.
- “The invisible forces are ever working for man who is always ‘pulling the strings’ himself, though he does not know it. Owing to the vibratory power of words, whatever man voices, he begins to attract.”
Shinn sums up her idea of “signs of land” by talking about the law of attraction:
I attracted the men in my past for some reasons beyond lust, attraction, and interest. Every one of the men in my romantic life have taught me invaluable lessons. At one point in time, they were safe places that I considered home. I wanted to make them my last port of call. But they were temporary docking stations. I responded to my desire to follow my bliss and heeded the siren’s inviting call for love. I crashed my boat into these signs of land, these beautiful, talented and ridiculously damaged men, and relished in the good and bad. I took some brutal hit as I crashed into them, but the hits continue to make me stronger and helped me to realize what I do want, what I do need, what I can bear to live without.
They are my signs of land. I thank them for getting me to where I am now. I am almost home, closer to land than I ever imagined.