We all have some big, audacious goals: Become a New York Times bestseller. Make oodles of money. Become a part of the global canon. Become a well-known pastry chef with a Food Network show. Complete the Ironman. Make a baby blanket. Fly to the moon.
And it’s great to have goals. But when and with whom should you share those goals?
is contrary to everything you have ever been told. The advice in this video is an outlier to the conventional and unconventional wisdom I’ve heard (and given). According to Derek Sivers in this brilliant (and short) talk, telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. As Michael Hyattrecapped in his blog:
Why is this true? According to him, it is because you get the psychological satisfaction of accomplishing the goal without having to actually do the work. In other words, talking becomes a substitute for doing.
Hmmm….Raise your hand if you know more people who expressed some big goal and become focused on talking about the goal rather than breaking that goal apart and doing it.
Raise your hand if you know people who have talked about starting that business, doing that 5K, changing that hairstyle, writing a book or screenplay for years but nothing has ever materialized except talk.
Raise your hand if you have talked a good game about what you intend on doing but you are still facing a blank wall, a blank page or a blinking cursor on a screen.
Let’s not confuse the declaration of the dream as the action needed to make the dream come to life. As Michael Hyatt briliantly summed it up,
“You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do,” so why announce it until you have accomplished it?
So what do you think: Do you agree or disagree with Derek Sivers? Should you be outright and public with your goals?