Love needs to be present in every black female’s life, in all of our houses. It is the absence of love that has made it difficult for us to stay alive or, if alive, to live fully. When we love ourselves we want to live fully. Whenever people talk about black women’s lives the emphasis is rarely on transforming society so that we can live fully, it is almost always about applauding how well we have “survived” despite harsh circumstances or how we can survive in the future. When we love ourselves, we know that we must do more than survive. We must have the means to live fully. To live fully, black women can no longer deny our need to know love.
bell hooks in Sisters of the Yam: Black Women and Self-Recovery (103)