Welcome to The Skim, a curated weekly round-up of links, podcasts, videos, and/or books. This week features blogs about monogamy, self-esteem and settling for second best, taking your agency back, what you should not in a relationship, a review of a book on online searches and what turns people on, trusting your instincts, 

eHarmony: Are you used to settling for less? (Can I get an amen right there?)